Jacquelyn S. Gonz, Attorney At Law Llc

Can a “sleep divorce” cause a real separation?

We all know the feeling; we cuddle up next to our significant other at night and try to drift off. However, your partner’s tossing and turning keep you up all night long. Or maybe you are the one keeping your spouse up with loud snoring or restless legs.

It’s a common issue that most couples have. And without a good night sleep, it affects how you approach your relationship. That’s why more married couples consider a “sleep divorce” – a shared decision where couples sleep in separate beds.

Sounds like a divorce waiting to happen

There is a negative stigma surrounding couples who sleep separately. Most people perceive it as a warning sign for a looming separation. However, there are several benefits to sleeping apart. According to Psychology Today, separate beds allows spouses to customize their bed to personal preferences, such as a colder temperature, more blankets or a firmer mattress.

It also allows partners to sleep when it is convenient for them. Most couples report that their spouse keeps them up longer than desired due to using their cellphone, watching television or reading. With a separate bed, you can sleep when it works best for your body.

That’s amazing! Let’s buy another mattress

While the benefits sound amazing, there are drawbacks to sleeping separately. For most couples, bedtime is a crucial period to bond with their spouse or reconnect after a stressful day. If you sleep in different beds or rooms, you lose out on that essential bonding time.

There is also a problem with physical intimacy. Most couples tend to have sex between 11 p.m. and 1 a.m., and if you are separated from your partner, it makes it trickier to maintain a healthy sex life. It also limits your ability to cuddle or spend time together after physical intimacy.

Ultimately, it’s up to you and your spouse to evaluate the benefits and drawbacks to separate beds. Different beds could save your marriage or lead you one step closer to divorce court. It depends on where your relationship currently stands.

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